Warrior or Worrier?

In our Therapy Talk the other day we were musing about powerful women and I mentioned how women seem to be portrayed more and more as these super-strong warriors in the movies.

They take on men and win.

No matter how hard they’re punched, they brush it off.

These "super" women are really hard. They don’t feel pain. They are tough and hide all their emotions.

Really? I once got hit in the face by a cricket ball I was trying to catch and there’s no way you get up quickly from that (I cried, a lot!) or any sort of punch.

I used to feel this enormous inner pressure to be strong and tough. To impress others with how I could cope with anything. I thought I didn't need anyone.

But I was kidding myself.

I cared a lot about what others thought of me. I actually spent most of my time working out what people were thinking about me and changing myself to make them like me more. Because inside I did not feel likeable.  Or lovable.

More worrier than warrior ...

Now I've worked through a lot of that inner stuff and am free to be myself. It's amazing how calm and clear my mind is now I'm not guessing what others are thinking and feeling all the time.

Now that feels like a true super power. Being OK with being me. Even if I can't catch a ball or take a hit in the face :)

What about you?

What's your superpower?