A Native American was talking to his grandson.
“There are two wolves fighting inside all of us – the wolf of hate & fear and the wolf of love & peace.”
The boy looked up, wide-eyed and asked,
“Which one will win?”
His grandfather replied,
“The one we feed,”
I find it amazing how when we put words in a certain order, they can become something truly beautiful and inspiring.
Here are a few that spoke to me recently:
"The soul is dyed the colour of its thoughts. Think only on those things that are in line with your principles and can bear the light of day. The content of your character is your choice. Day by day, what you do is who you become."
- Heraclitus (Greek philosopher, circa 535 – 475 BC)
Nope - can't follow that......
Back in July I posted about new research that found most stress we feel is not bad for us.
Yeah! Not at all!
The problem? This only works as long as we truly believe it.
It's the worrying about being stressed that actually narrows our arteries and causes our illnesses.
This is so amazing, I thought I'd mention it again and pass on this TED talk about it.
Before my training in self mastery, I found it impossible to change my stress response. And it was doubly hard to convince myself my stress wasn't bad for me. Because it FELT so bad back then.
It doesn't help either when someone tries to remind us the stress we're feeling is nothing to worry about. Calm down? Really?
Nope. Doesn't help at all.
But I know it IS possible to change. And now I choose to love the way my body prepares me to act when I think anxious thoughts.
It can be quite a revelation to watch myself when those wild stress hormones turn up.
We really shouldn't be so hard on them. They're only doing their job......
"Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Sometimes I like to think that, one day, I'm going to change the world.
Make a great contribution somehow.
But stress loves ambition. So maybe the only thing I need to do is grow a little each day.
To become more of who I need to be, in order to serve who I need to serve.
To change the world of each client, one by one ..
And that will be enough ..
Here's a great TED talk by Ric Elias - it's really short and really impactful. He tells us what he learned in the few short moments when he thought he was going to die. And how he's changed his life as a result.
And the best quote for me? This one:
"I no longer try to be right. I choose to be happy."
A healthy, intimate relationship spells health for our mind and our body. Having someone to share those amazing moments with. To support us when life kicks us in the teeth, reduces our stress and makes us less likely to ever experience depression.
In the past few weeks, I've been lucky enough to attend the weddings of two couples who mean the world to me. Emotional stuff. To see them take those vows of lifelong love, in spite of all the things life may throw at them.
And reflecting on these happy memories reminded me of these quotes on finding "the one" which I thought I'd share:
"If we do not know how to take care of ourselves and to love ourselves, we cannot take care of the people we love. Loving oneself is the foundation for loving another person" Thich Nhat Hanh
And I love this stunning quote on the subject by Galway Kinnell which I found in a post by Dr Ben Kim:
“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
Only when we unconditionally accept ourselves and feel whole, even when alone, are we truly ready to love another. Because love means meeting their needs instead of looking for them to heal us instead.
Only then will we attract the right wrong person for us in that moment.
So although nobody's perfect, then a relationship can be ...
You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of. If you find that you're not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.
So they've done some research and shown that stressing over any stress you're feeling is gonna make you ill.
And so it's not so much the stress that is damaging you, but the worrying ABOUT the stress that'll get you in the end.
So if they hadn't done the research in the first place to show that stress makes you ill, then we wouldn't be worrying about it and we'd be fine!
But then you can't take knowledge back, can you?
And we'd rather know and make our own choices, wouldn't we? Or would we?
Is ignorance really bliss?
And if we stress about the people we care about and their stress, does that count as just stress or is it stressing about stress? Hmmmmmm!
Anyway here's a link to Dr Weil's post on the subject.
And I'm trying not to stress about the stress that I'm feeling at the moment due to the photo not loading at the top of this post.
And please, whatever you do, don't you stress about my stress.....
Just came across this great blog written by Wee Peng Ho which is packed with advice for a healthy, stress-less life.
And I found on there this list of inspirational quotes, so I thought I'd share my favourite two:
This one is simply stunning:
How is one to live a moral and compassionate existence when one is fully aware of the blood, the horror inherent in life, when one finds darkness not only in one’s culture but within oneself? If there is a stage at which an individual life becomes truly adult, it must be when one grasps the irony in its unfolding and accepts responsibility for a life lived in the midst of such paradox. One must live in the middle of contradiction, because if all contradiction were eliminated at once life would collapse. There are simply no answers to some of the great pressing questions. You continue to live them out, making your life a worthy expression of leaning into the light – Barry Lopez
Make "your life a worthy expression of leaning into the light" - Wow! That just says it all for me. Sends a wave of energy down my spine ...
And this one, on keeping it simple, from one of my all-time heroes (and featuring one of my favourite herbs!) :
However mean your life is, meet it and live it: do not shun it and call it hard names. Cultivate poverty like a garden herb, like sage. Do not trouble yourself much to get new things, whether clothes or friends. Things do not change, we change. Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts - Henry David Thoreau
And this wasn't on the list, but it's so brazen it makes the cut :
I went to the UK for a few days to attend my beautiful niece's wedding to her lovely man and I stayed up really late every night, ate pies (I so miss English pies!) and drank more than I should.
And now I'm home, it's caught up with me and I feel totally, utterly drained.
Then today I got this timely newsletter from Dr Ben Kim which included the following wise words:
" When looking to address any health problem, think first about the most simple, fundamental changes you can make to give your body a chance to heal itself. Specifically, think about getting more physical and emotional rest, working toward being physically fit and flexible, nourishing your body with nutrient-rich foods, avoiding foods and beverages that provide little nutrient-value, and spending your time with people who don't consistently bring you down."
It's great advice - I'm not ill, but I may get ill if I don't take some time to rest, instead of trying to squeeze every last drop out of life all the the time.
So I'm taking his advice and I'm off to bed. Early!
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